Holiday Blues And How To Fight Them
The holidays are here and with it comes the dreaded (and often familiar) holiday blues. As the leftover turkey makes way for Christmas trees there is pressure to exude gratitude and cheer. On the inside you may be feeling everything but thankful and jolly.
The holiday season often overloads our senses. Smell is the strongest sense tied to memory and this time of year is brimming with nostalgic smells. The cinnamon stick wafting through the air can bring with it memories of loved ones that are far away or no longer with us. The apple pie in the oven reminds of unresolved family conflict.
Along with memories, the holiday season is packed full of “SHOULDs.” Mounting expectations of who we must spend time with, what expensive gifts we ought to buy, what we are supposed to cook. It’s often the unspoken expectations that places the greatest stress on relationships. The strain on finances, time, and energy can leave us feeling ragged and disenchanted.
Instead of falling into the same holiday traps of yesteryear, this season consider taking a new approach.
*Clearly Communicate what you want to your loved ones and be ready to hear what they want too. Maybe you compromise on where you spend the holidays this year, or who you invite to spend the holidays with you. You can choose to celebrate on a different day, or even skip the turkey altogether and get takeout for a change!
*Be Realistic. Just because it’s a holiday does not mean that everyone will suddenly like each other and get along. Expect that people will be themselves, and don’t be shocked when they prove you right.
*Be Kind to Yourself. Give yourself the greatest gift of all by finally taking care of yourself. Make an appointment with a therapist to talk through your family struggles. Go see your doctor to address that lingering pain in your back. You can even gift yourself with a nap!
*Watch your Alcohol Consumption. Studies show that for individuals with depression, drunk driving accidents and suicide increase over the holidays. For those who already struggle with the holiday stress, alcohol and other drugs might seem like a good way to cope. If you’re already overwhelmed, too much alcohol will make things much worse. Instead of grabbing a drink, reach out for help.
*Increase your Vitamin D-levels . There is a certain charm to the wintertime, like cuddling up to a warm fire while it snows outside, but the decrease to your exposure to sunlight. Over time our vitamin D levels drop and so does our energy and our mood. Try to get outside for at least 30 minutes a day when the sun is shining. You can also consult with your physician about adding a vitamin D supplement.
I can’t promise that your holidays will be merry and bright, but if you follow these strategies you might notice a little less dread and perhaps even a dash of joy.
Take care.
This publication is designed to provide general information prepared by a professional in regard to the subject matter covered. It is not intended to provide psychological or clinical advice. Although prepared by a professional, this publication should not be utilized as a substitute for professional service in specific situations. If mental health advice or other expert assistance is required, the service of a professional should be sought.
